The Magnet Principle

Have you ever wanted to get together with a certain man/woman in your lives? Have you ever attempted to get together with that person? If you have, you might just find a startling similarity between your approach, and the laws of magnetism.

The Magnet's story

Magnets are generally out of ferrite material, and have a bi-polar nature. This is because all the atoms in inside a magnet are aligned so as to create two distinct poles and hence the nature of attraction.

A magnet tries to attract a piece of iron when brought near it. With proximity, the iron bar momentarily develops magnetic properties. This happens because the magnet uses some of its energy to temporarily align the atoms inside the iron bar.

If the magnet is taken away within a short period of time, the newly developed properties are lost. However, if the magnet is strong enough, and kept near the iron bar for long enough, the iron bar will develop permanent magnetic properties.

The art of getting together with a person

You expend your energy and resources, to get closer to a person. As you get closer, you find mild reciprocation developing. With time, you spend more energy, and the attraction between you two get stronger and stronger.

One day, when the attraction when the threshold is crossed, you decide to get together. This is when the feelings for you in the person become permanent!

However, if you let go half way through, the person who you were pursuing, like the iron bar, will loose all recollection of the effort that you have put in, or the energy you have expended on him/her. The person will move on as if nothing had happened. You, the magnet, on the other hand, will come out heart broken and drained. You will have lesser energy and motivation than you initially started out with.

Then there are cases, where regardless of how much energy you expend trying to influence the person, he/she might just not develop deeper feelings for you after a certain point. This would indicate that the composition of the iron bar is not optimal, or the person you are going after is not a good match for you. Find someone who you can connect to instead!

Toilets and the comfort zone

Imagine a scenario when you go to a restaurant, and before you start the meal, you take a trip to the toilet. In the toilet, you use a certain urinal / cubicle, and then have a delicious meal. After chatting over a few drinks, you get up to use the toilet again.

Did you notice that you end up using the same urinal or cubicle you used the last time? Take a moment to recollect!

Unconsciously, we tend to remember places we had been to, and things we had used. The mind registers any pleasant experience, and keeps it in the subconscious. So, next time we are around the same place as before, we recall our past experiences, and the subconscious drives us toward what we had found comfort in before.

In fact you can say that the subconscious dictates our nature. That’s why we tend to sleep on the same side of the bed that we are used to sleeping on, regardless of the bed we sleep on, or call a side of the sofa our favourite while watching TV, and so on.

If you think that this doesn't apply, next time you are at something, try to realize whether you just go about these activities 'with or without' thinking. If you let your instincts drive you, I'm pretty sure you would follow the pattern!